I've been blessed to cross paths with Jen Ferguson in the blogosphere, where she facilitates a community called the Soli Deo Gloria Sisterhood. Jen's husband Craig is recovering from an addiction to pornography, and Jen is recovering from an addiction to control. Together, they made the incredibly brave decision to write Pure Eyes, Clean Heart: A Couple's Journey to Freedom from Pornography. They blessed me with an advance copy in exchange for my honest review.
Honestly, I don't know that I've ever been more touched by a work of nonfiction. This book is God-breathed. Anointed! Reading it, I felt washed over by the prayer that went into it.
I LOVE the way it's put together (her perspective, his perspective, gentle suggestions about how one might, with the help of the Lord, approach a specific challenge).
I LOVE the humble tone. The bravery, honestly, and just...love of these people makes me want to curl up and cry. There is not one iota of pretentiousness or bossiness, and I know--as one who's very sensitive to tone, as one who CANNOT be told (by another human) what to do and how to think--that's why the message affected me so very deeply.
I LOVE the applicability of this book. I believe wholeheartedly that it will help EVERY married person, ESPECIALLY if (s)he's a Christian. If (s)he's NOT a Christian, this book may very well lead him or her TO Christ. There is so much, here, about love...forgiveness...honesty...authenticity...grace...surrender (I could go on and on!): the most basic and necessary ingredients for healthy marriage.
I'd promised to lend my copy to a friend when I finished reading, and I don't know: I'm going to have to buy her a copy or something, because I just can't. I need to go back and reread certain things...underline them...sit with them awhile...maybe write them up my arm with a Sharpie.
Trust me: even if pornography has never been an issue in your marriage, you will be blessed by this book. You will learn from this book. You will be inspired by this book. You will start praying for this couple to make a video series out of this book, for your small group Bible study. You will wish you had the money to buy a copy of this book for every married couple you know and every church library in your county.
For a chance to win a copy of Pure Eyes, Clean Heart: A Couple's Journey to Freedom from Pornography, just leave a comment, below. The winner will be announced in one week, on October 13th.
You can purchase a hard copy of the Fergusons' book here, or the Kindle Edition here. I am confident that you'll have no regrets.